Auckland Girls' Dinner, Saturday August 15, 2009

“Friends are like bras: close to your heart and there for support!”

Hi there,

I just wanted to report back on our dinner last night.

As it turned out, there were only three of us at Jackie’s, but it was still a really great night. We ordered in Indian and spent the evening enjoying the great food and chatting about all sorts of things. We’re all in different places on our POF journeys and, as always, it was good to catch up and learn from each other’s experiences. So many of us don’t seem to fit “the mould” and it can really help to talk about what we’ve been through and throw round ideas and advice we’ve picked up along the way. Thank you Jackie and Rosemary, for a lovely night.

If you’d like to organise a get-together in your area, please email me at and I’ll do what I can to help; I know I’ve found the support and companionship of our members truly invaluable.


Upcoming events we also discussed:

Girls’ Day Out – Auckland, ASB Showgrounds, Nov 20-22.

Fertility NZ will have a stall and have asked if we’d like to be there, too. It’ll be a great place to reach a lot of women, share our message and educate young women about fertility in general, and our support group in particular. If you’re interested in being involved in any capacity, please let me know. For more, visit the official website:

Also, check out the Fertility NZ “3+campaign” to improve New Zealanders’ access to fertility treatment/education. Please read the information below to find out how to get involved.

NZEM Taupo national gathering Queen’s Birthday weekend, June 5-7, 2010.

We’re still in the very early stages of planning for this, so if there are any ideas you have for particular topics or speakers or anything you think might help us pull it together, please let me know – this is about you!

Keep in touch,
Nicole x

Fertility NZ “3+ Campaign

New Zealand is proud of being a modern society where women are highly educated, well travelled and highly integrated into the economy. There is free maternity care and support for working parents. However, for the 20% of New Zealanders that experience infertility at some time in their life there is a gaping hole. Publicly funded infertility treatment is highly rationed – at best you will achieve two goes; many will not be eligible. In Australia and much of Europe, 3% of all children are conceived from IVF or related treatment – in New Zealand it is half that. That represents 1000 children unborn in New Zealand each year.

New Zealand’s consumer society, Fertility NZ, aims to bridge this gap with its 3 plus campaign.

Addressing infertility is important not only for individuals, but also for society. New Zealand is following European trends where 25 – 30% of women reach 40 without having a child. It is important doing so is an informed choice, rather than women running out of time. Because so many women are not having any children, those that do will need to have larger families for population replacement.

Fertility NZ’s 3 plus campaign aims for government policies to be fertility friendly and aware of the educational need to promote planning for a family as well as a career.

This is what FertilityNZ would like to achieve:

3 IVF Cycles – or sets of comparable treatment

* 3 cycles give an 80% chance of a child for women 37 and younger

* 3 cycles will let many couples have a second child if they become pregnant on their 1st or 2nd cycle

3 years waiting – at most before being eligible for treatment

* The present wait of up to 5 years is too long

* 5 years reduces the chance of success because the woman is so much older

3% of all babies – born after IVF–related treatment in NZ

* 3% or more of all children born in Australia and many European countries are conceived from IVF

* Anything less means many New Zealanders are missing out having a family

+ Remove the anomalies

* The present scoring system for treatment is out of date – especially about women’s age

+ Education to preserve fertility

* Government policies that are fertility friendly

* Education to promote planning for children and career

+ Research to reduce the infertility toll in NZ

* What can we do to halt the fall in male fertility?

* What lifestyle changes really make a difference?

Each month a regional group will be tasked to fill a box with sponsored dummies to send to the Health Minister. To participate, go to our website, press the Donate Now button and donate a minimum of $5 to send your dummy to Tony Ryall. Send us an email on with your name, address, telephone number and we will ensure Tony Ryall gets your dummy; the more the better. Alternatively you can email us and send your donation through the post.>